Day 2 for the Boys' Karate. They were very excited, for the most part. Although Jake wanted to just "STAY HOME! Watch Dora, NOW!"
Jackson has been practicing his counting in Japanese - it's very cute. We arrived early to see if the Sensei had any uniforms for the boys; not yet, they'll have to be ordered. So, I put the boys in the warm-ups and sweats I brought for them and took their shoes and socks off. They were ready. Jackson was asked if he wanted to participate in Jacob's class and he said yes! I was pumped. I wanted him to get his feet wet and start to feel more comfortable. And I think it's cool for Jake to have his big brother out there with him.
They did great and had a blast! Jake is so into it! Jack was enjoying himself and I think it was much less intimidating for him than the older class. So, Jake's class ended, they bowed, and ran to Daddy; I greeted them with a big hug and a, "Good job boys!"
Jack was excited for his next class. He kept counting in Japanese over and over and saying, "I'm gonna do the whole class, Daddy." and I said, "Alright!" I took them to the bathroom so Jack could pee. When we got back to the Dojo, I said to Jack, "Ok, go bow at the door and go in. I'm gonna put on Jacob's shoes." So, Jack entered the Dojo; brave, eager, excited, pumped up from his brother's class. Jake was on a high too and a little crazy from all the adrenaline. I sat down on the parents area right next to the studio. From there I could see the whole class - it was a good seat. I know that he would want to see me the whole time. Once Jack was in the Dojo, I turned towards Jake (with my back to Jack) and started tying his shoes.
This karate studio is successful. Which means it gets busy and there's not a lot of space outside the Dojo itself to stand or sit while you wait. There were people everywhere, crowding the space during this transition time and some of those people stepped in front of me while I tied Jake's shoes. They blocked Jack's view and he couldn't see me. He thought I left. This was a bad time to tie Jake's shoes.
I had completely erased his excited, optimistic feelings. He was now hurt, betrayed, scared, sad, insecure, and slightly traumatized. And he was DONE with Karate for the day. DONE.
We want him in Karate to help boost his self-confidence. I just stomped on it with my big old, idiot foot.
It was bad. I still feel horrible. But I'm excited for the next class. We talked about it and I promised him I would not tie Jake's shoes until after his class. A simple fix - don't take my eye off of the Little Dragon!